Ha! I can relate. I play "thoughts of divorce" all the time. But here is what I would be worried about. If he thinks you look like "an old fashion grandma" with your hair up and a flannel jacket, what does he think of all your other hairstyles and beloved pieces of clothing and outfits? And when will he (or can he) accept that you ARE an old grandma? Or will be, one day? And if not an actual grandma, then at least OLD?